As I’m getting older there seems to be less and less middle ground to this question. I want to look nice, but not really enough to work at it. This is a slippery slope because as I get older, it takes more work to look good.
I feel okay about aging; in fact, I’m probably more comfortable with it now than I ever have been, but I have also noticed that I’m getting to the age where people are making more assumptions about me on the basis of how I look, and I’m not okay with that. I still want to be perceived as competent, pulled-together, responsible, and, if I’m being 100% honest, attractive.
It’s difficult to admit that in reality, my life and lifestyle have changed. I am no longer a rising young professional, dating and going out on the town. I am a chronically under-employed wife whose husband prefers me to look “relaxed”.
I don’t have resolution to any of these thoughts. I just wish concealer wouldn’t cake into the wrinkles under my eyes and that my hair wasn’t so frizzy all the darn time.
Yeah I have stopped blow drying my hair, I just don't have time. I actually need to buy a new blow dryer because mine doesn't blow hot enough air to dry it fast enough. I used the blow dryer at the hotel I just stayed at and it worked fabulously (haha).
ReplyDeleteSo I guess my issue is that I'm too cheap and lazy to buy a decent hair dryer.
My boyfriend says that he like my relaxed look too. He likes me in jeans, he likes my hair curly (ewww) and with no makeup. bleck But I guess it's flattering that he thinks I'm beautiful without all the extra stuff.
I know you how feel. It's hard to get up a bit earlier in order to get everything taken care of and feel put together. But I know that it doesn't take THAT long and it makes a difference in the way I feel during the day.
ReplyDeleteI am no longer a rising young professional, dating and going out on the town. I am a chronically under-employed wife whose husband prefers me to look “relaxed”.
ReplyDeleteYep, that's where I am, too. Plus, I moved to Europe, where my large collection of American sportswear does not look stylish. Putting out the effort does make me feel much better about myself, though.
it's healthier to air dry it, i'm doing it too. and your head sometimes hurt if you tie it too strong. maybe try loose ponytail while at home?
ReplyDeleteand i like that weird girly moment on your hair today :)
For me, washing my hair with vinegar has drastically reduced frizz and weird poking-up locks.
ReplyDeleteI like having my hair out of my face, but I don't like the look of a ponytail or the cold ears, and I sometimes get those headaches. What I usually do is French-braid just the front part of my hair, going straight back from the center of my forehead. I stop gathering in hair from the sides when I get to just in front of my ears. Then I continue braiding without adding hair until a few inches from the ends. If braided wet, it stays done for two days and looks nice. It did take me some practice to get good enough at braiding to do this reliably.