I haven’t been married long, but I have figured out one sure-fire way to make Chuk’s heart melt. I surprise him as soon as he walks in the door. I certainly don’t do this everyday (or else it wouldn’t be a surprise) but even once a month (I try to do more than that though) is enough to make him feel like the most special person in the world.
Sometimes I surprise him with a pre-dinner appetizer, garnished and presented as I would if we were having guests. Other times, I’ll have a cold martini made and waiting for him. If I don’t even want to go to the hassle of a martini (which takes up to two whole minutes!) I’ll put a beer glass in the freezer and then pour him a beer. We don’t drink alcohol everyday (or even every week) so this feels special.
If I don’t want to spend fifteen minutes making him an appetizer or even one minute making him a drink I have a third way to surprise him which only takes ten seconds. As soon as he walks in the door and closes it behind him, I shove him into the door and give him a ten second kiss. Then I smile and say in a normal way, “Welcome home. I missed you.” Seriously, you’d think he won the lottery. Dudes love it when you get a little aggressive.
All of these ideas are cheaper than a weekend away and less of a time commitment than marriage counseling. I’m telling you, it will keep your relationship alive. "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure."